And neither is kink or fetishism.
For that matter, only a small part of BDSM as a whole is about pain, and I’m not really sure where this widespread perception that kink is all about pain came from. Is that how mainstream media portrays it? I’m way too deeply involved in the kink world to know if this is the case, but if is- don’t believe everything you see on TV!
Kink and BDSM have become blanket terms for acts of sexual expression that fall outside the perceived sexual norm. People engage in kinky activities for a variety of reasons, but it’s the desire for connection, intimacy, and pleasure which mostly drives them, not pain.
So what is Bondassage about then?
No doubt, you’ll get a different answer depending on who you ask, and no two people approach Bondassage the same way. For me, Bondassage is about embodiment, and the exploration of physical sensations. Some techniques, such as bondage and sensory deprivation are borrowed from BDSM as tools to enhance pleasure and presence. As a Bondassage practitioner, my desire is for you to completely let go, and allow yourself to be open to new experiences, both physically and mentally, as being bound and surrendering control can have an enormous mental component.
If you have a huge hang up around being bound or blindfolded, then bondassage is not for you.
If you’re truly open to new experiences and want to relax while someone else takes control of your pleasure, bondassage can be a wonderful experience.
If you are still feeling like you are not getting a straight answer as to what bondassage is, that is because each session is different, and truly crafted for the individual. I goal is to read your body, and let your responses dictate where we go next- so don’t be a dead fish!
In a sense, bondassage is BDSM-lite, which makes it great for people who feel ready to explore kink, but do not know where to start- I love introducing newbies to the dark side!
For a peak into bondassage, take a look at my video, but remember- it is just a teaser of one possible scenario.